A message for the admin: I didnt see any specific discharge on my underwear so I placed my hand in my private part and I felt wetness. If a woman dreamt of having had sexual intimacy with her husband in her sleep and even experienced orgasm in the dream,should she perform ghusl? I pray this finds you in the best of states. In the hadeeth you are talking about, when Umm Sulaym asked about ghusl from a dream, she was told, if she sees water, And yes, we cover a lot of taboo topics because we have a tendency to hide our dirty laundry. It could be that a woman, as we discussed in the article and in QA with sh. I read that the female maniy maybe white sometimes. Perhaps we could think of a better euphemism as this term, wet dream does not clarify to the average reader what exactly happened. Whenever I was in need of something, I would slip away for I disliked to face him.. I read all questions on the site but still have doubts about my situation. This is how things are for men, not sure if it is the same for women or how women can differentiate between the different types of discharges, and which ones require ghusl and which ones dont. I have 2 3 questions which you have already discussed before but due to some different situations i have been confused getting a correct answer. As for the discharge, it could be from the dream but not from the orgasm. In my experience, some of the boys tend to be attention seeking and so in terms of physical time, managed to take up a lot more than the girls. Rather, modesty should be maintained when askin. After an orgasm, the wetness is called Mani.. but when she wakes up and no wetness then thats fine although its better to perform ghusl. Still have to take bath? However one day I woke up feeling sexually aroused and then I checked it up online and saw that it was wet dream. For men, a wet dream or what is also called nocturnal emission, only happens during sleep. 3. Seeing that dream will make your heart beat go faster and you will feel strong tingly sensation in your vaginal area. 4. I thought though, and Allah knows best, that that Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) use with pray with Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) sitting somewhere in front of him, and she would move her legs when he needed to Sujood and then replace them (in front of him) when he rose again? Umm Salamah said: Umm Sulaym came to the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu alihi wasalam, and said, O Messenger of Allah, Allah is not too shy to tell us the truth. Assalamu alaikum (Please read the hadith posted in my last post to see the modesty Umm Sulaym and Umm Salamah (may Allaah be pleased with them both) had when asking). The Hanafi jurists cite a particular but relevant ruling that if a woman has a wet dream and during the dream, she felt her desires being fulfilled and experiences the same pleasure of sexual climax (like orgasm) but did not ejaculate then she will not have to do ghusl. Allah knows what is in your heart, so it is enough to have your intention in your heart without pronouncing it with your tongue. 7. Im an unmarried female who dont know about wet dream. I do have discharge every day, they vary between white/yellow/thick/thin. I have a question. could it be that the wetness had dried? Masturbation slows down or stops wet dreams. I know this was posted like nearly ten years ago and I most likely wont get a reply but I cant find the answer to my question elsewhere, so.. Qn 1; does rape, sexual abuse, ambiguous consent, just kissing in your dreams count as a wet dream? Salaam I want to ask you something regarding similar subject. Is it necessary to wear an under wear since we all women have white discharge in our everyday lives.. but is it necessary? For instance if I tell you dont think about a pink elephant what happens? Does a woman need to do ghusl if there clearly was no orgasm, but wetness is seen due to sexual thoughts? The website is no longer in existence. Umm Salamah was so shy, even with such a brief question, that she covered her face when asking the messenger of Allaah sallallahu alayhee wsalam, who was her husband! He/ She has to perform ghusl to cleanse himself from janabah (impurity), if maniy (semen) was emitted. (I would think Allah rewards each thing on its own and rewards every step we take towards him, and we should have a good opinion of Allah. Every one of you brothers and sisters, go to islamqa.com, type in the keywords of your questions and concerns, 9 times out of 10 you will find your answer on the utmost embarrassing issues answered by real scholars. tahara without which salat is not valid. I would like to know how exactly do you know if you had a wet dream if you dont recall it. Does a woman have to do ghusl if she has an erotic dream? However, wet dreams are a way for the testicles to remove older sperm and help with . This does not purify as it does not count as washing. then you should very consistently read your duas, adhkaar of the night and the morning. 3. It is also reported in the sunnah that the washing the feet should be delayed until the end of the ghusl. then again how would you know if she will experience them or not? This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. I want to understand if doubts lead to different ruling or not) 3.1. if in this situation I see wet spot on my underwear, but cant understand whats that, do I have to bath? And surround yourself with pious friends. I just went to leave my reply here so i can see if there is an update to ur inquiry. I wish i could help u but Im too embarrassed to ask. Pingback: Female Wet Dreams: Islamic Perspectives & Regulations The Journey to Marriage. 2.Is the female semen yellow and thin?if so then does if she sees such discharge without remebering any orgasm both during the day or after sleeping will the ghusl be invalid? I am in control, this will all pass, everything will be just fine. and we dont have to ghusl. She has hosted several Islamic lectures and weekly halaqas in different communities all over U.S and overseas, also hosted special workshops regarding parenting, Islamic sex-ed, female sexuality, and marital intimacy. When a woman is sure she didnt climax in a dream but still feels wetness, sweat etc washing her private part, can she consider it as a discharge that breaks wudu only? I am fortunate that your passions include sharing this material as I have benefitted from it. Then wash any impurity off your body (if any). Some time ago, I gave a series of lectures on Taharah (cleanliness) to the sisters in my community. :). The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other. It is a dream where you might see yourself or some other girl with some guy. and that Id be able to see the discharge. 100% with you on talking to your children about puberty. Also, she says she would slip away-how is that not passing? but confused.. why this happen so intensely . suffering from such situations. Foremost, wet dreams are normal, common, and don't mean one is a sexual deviant. Not a forum with men and women together discussing their irrelevant personal experiences. The cookie is set by GDPR cookie consent to record the user consent for the cookies in the category "Functional". Thanks for posting this, very helpful! :o) And yes, we can get obsessive at times, and that is also not good. Should I perform Ghusl every morning or just perform ablution when I see wetness and am not sure whether it is a wet dream or not? It is a strong sexual sensation that sends waves of pleasure from abdominal area to vaginal area, which makes a woman arch her back a bit and perhaps. This fatwa states the differences between the discharges of women. I worked with a client who had a destructive thought and this ended it. Many sisters are ignorant of these issues and the rulings to abide by and it is essential that these matters be taught as they concern and affect oru obligations, ex. but recently stoped after finding out. InshaAllah I will post all the proofs and details in a post. Many times the kids are confused and dont know what is happening to them or what they have to do according to Islam, and all this confusion could be avoided if the parents simply have this short talk with their kids. wet dream is involuntarilyhence out of a persons control Dont you take a shower every day anyway? for real long time. I think doubts are baseless, but cant judge in a state of doubts.. in the qna for the likeagarment course shaykh yasir stated that it is not haram. If you had a dream in which what was seen was mainly intercourse and no wetness is found upon waking up you are not in a state of major ritual impurity (janaba) and you don't need to perform a ritual bath. For almost a week now it randomly started at 11pm at night whilst being awake i would feel sexually aroused uncontrollably even if nothing comes to mind of that nature. i am 19, it happens many times with me that even when i am awake i dream as if a guy is kissing me and hugging me with love. Fast If u can recall it and are half awake it counts as masturbation, It is not allowed at that point to use ones own hands or any I have never experienced wet dreams as a teenage girl. yasir, the reason we asked if it is just the discharge is because it could be the regular vaginal discharge (in case a woman is not sure whether she had an orgasm or not during the dream). and can i offer my prayer on the same bedsheet ? If you are too shy, ask the sheikh to contact you after the show so you can ask in private and they will inshaAllaah. I read it a while ago but as it has remained at the back of my mind I feel compelled to comment. I take shower like this when i have to get paak.. i do my wadu like washing hands, washing mouth 3 times, nose then face hands till elbow then head clean ears neck then directly go under the shower wash entire body with soap or shower gel and in the end wash feets (is this right?) When you do ghusl and you have to ''make sure all your hair or skin is wet'', does this mea. I would like to know the rights of the mother and the wife, so that I can maintain a balance in the family. Wet dreams do not reduce sperm count. I read your explanation of orgasm and the part where it says when a person wakes up before having an orgasm. Subhanak Allah wa bi Hamdika wa tabarak Asmuka wa taala jaduka wa la ilaha ghayruk. I know there are some anti-sex psychos in the world that actually believe this, but the fact is that God made us and our bodies to operate and function in several ways, and God is nowhere near the level of obtuseness as these kind of psycho/religious fanatics. Just understand, that the whole notion of reducing the frequency is in more ways than believed, connected to numerous factors personal, social, environmental including the religious makeup of a person. Al-Liqa al-Shahri (37/25). 4. How can one interpret dreams given by Allah? Can orgasm happen when we are awake? But I was still thinking its wet dream so I went to the toilet to check. I keep pushing the thoughts out of my head, but sometimes feel I cant. Therefore, if she does not remember an orgasm, and her private area is not extra wet, she doesn't have to do ghusl (bath). Dont you think men are getting excited over this? Also I am not sure how often would a women have a wet dream but I find it weird that I never had any wet dreams all my life until I got married and even then i probably had one or two of those occassions (and alhumdulillah I have quite a healthy sexual life). i dont know why its happening like this uncontrollably for a whole week now and i dont know weather to go to doctors or what to do. Sister Hena, jazakullah khair for your response. Firstly: If a man feels the semen moving when he feels desire without intercourse, and he holds his penis and nothing comes out, then he does not have to do ghusl according to the majority of scholars; this is unlike the well known view of Ahmad, may Allaah have mercy on him. I do not think of this on purpose my any means and the whole process can last from five to thirty seconds, and I never touch myself or try to continue these thoughts when they come into my head. I suppose her mother or elder sister or female relative should explain to her. She should spend more time with her husband. What does this hadith mean, specifically? In response, I just wanted to share my experience. In this hadth, the Prophet (peace be upon him) made it clear that ghusl is only obligatory upon seeing the liquid. its normal for a woman to have vaginal discharge and its normal for a womans vagina to become more wet or lubricated when she is aroused. Can I accept commission from a property broker for selling the owners brothers property? It is better to educate her once the signs of puberty start appearing in her. It can be a lunch table discussion, or if you have younger children, it can be one on one with the older one. 4. Uncertainty about purity and wet dream. Reading about wet dreams makes me scared to fall asleep for fear that I will continuously get wet dreams and then continuously have to take a shower. Do not underestimate what others are capable of teaching your daughter, including her friends (inside or outside the schools, Muslims or non-Muslims) or even teachers. a hadith somewhere but I cant remeber the exact words that the prophet said if you see your discharge is thin and yellow. Cases that necessitate ghusl - My Religion Islam Asalam u alykum, i had a personal question. 8. when waking up and finding discharge: I know the article says if there isnt certainty, no ghusl is necessary but can the discharge be from sexual excitement even if we cant remember the dream? Does a female wakes up feeling wet (many females have vaginal discharge all the times), or does it have to be accompanied by an orgasm? By the way, both men and women should use a sutrah when praying, and the same applies to women too, that if a woman passes in front of another woman who is praying, then she cuts off her prayer as well, and this is not limited to men., Just wondering if theres a hadith to this? I dont see what they can do about it. i never masturbate nor even touch my private parts for pleasure or any i just think of a guy in the need of love and suddenly i realize its just fake and try to push away those thoughts from my mind yet some times i find a colorless liquid after that, is ghusl mandatory in this case? Even with your spouse It is crucial that every parent have this talk with their kids, both boys and girls, and inform them about these things and the Islamic rulings on them. How do I consider this wetness now, as something that breaks wudu only or a discharge after ejaculation that I dont remember happening? Some Quick tips to reduce frequency of Wet dreams. maybe this article will help you about the regular vaginal discharges: Please show me the best way for dawah to someone who used to pray fast, etc? Because if there is no wetness when the person wakes up then how does he know that he had an orgasm while he was sleeping? Brothers, could you give me some suggestion on preventing wet dreams. And Allah knows best. Salaam. He embarked on his journey of learning through the various teachers at SeekersGuidance, including his mentor Shaykh Faraz Rabbani. But up until now I have never made full/complete wudu and then bathe and that is where I was confused. [Ibn Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar], Madhi when it comes to women is the wetness found while being aroused before reaching an orgasm. All it takes is a small gift from a reader like you to keep us going, for just $2 / month. 3. JazakAllah khair. Please help me! Pingback: A Women's Guide to Spirituality in Ramadan during Menstruation and Postnatal Bleeding | MuslimMatters.org, Pingback: Quandary of Female Vaginal Discharge: Pure or Impure? Please direct your questions to our Whats the Matter section http://www.muslimmatters.org/ask, your answers are all here http://islamqa.info/en/2571. [CDATA[ How can you agree with someones opinion over RasoolAllaah sallallhu alayhee wsalam? please clarify . The person has the intention in his heart before he starts praying. 2. )then carry on the conversation from there on to telling them about the changes they may see, in future, in their bodies and how it is normal, and what they should do when it happens. Pour . Sister Hena, when you say having an orgasm during sleep do you mean having a sexual dream? The cookie is set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin and is used to store whether or not user has consented to the use of cookies. We often leave our tricky subjects aside, like brushing them under the carpet, when really, we need to see them being discussed within the limits of the Shariah, for the sole purpose of educating people. Having the discharge is not such a big deal- just make sure you have pantyliner on and change it each time before wudo. So plz tell me it is a wet dream or not reply me today plz as soon as possible If you have a sexual dream without an orgasm do you have to do your ghusl again? She explained to her mother that it felt good. Thank you for writing this article. 2. Recently, its been happening alot, it never used to happen before and Im 19 so it probably would have happened before if it was to do with puberty but it never did. 3. This is the view of the Shaafii School. If you are unsure that you really did experience an orgasm while sleeping without finding any wetness upon waking up you can also assume that it didnt happen because certainty is not lifted by doubts in the sharia. May Allah grant us and you well-being. If a young lady constantly think about sex while fasting does that break her fast? You will get obsessed about not thinking about it which essentially gets you more focused on it. And what counts as passing in front of someone? First, the Muslim should make their intentions for purification. One last thing is that when praying in congregation, the sutrah of the Imam is considered a sutrah for everyone praying behind him, so it is sufficient for the Imam to pray towards a sutrah only. I dont want to go to doctors for them to ask me when was the last time i was intimate then when they realise what it is. He said, He should do ghusl. He was asked about a man who thinks that he had an erotic dream but does not see any wetness. Does drawing blood, as for a blood test, invalidate ablution? If a woman does not remember any sexual dream but wakes up with yellow discharge, is ghusl obligatory? He studied numerous texts in Islamic Law, Theology, Hadith, and other areas with Shaykh Faraz Rabbani and other teachers, including Shaykh Abdurrahman al-Shaar, Shaykh Ali Hani, and others. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: If a woman sees that, she should do ghusl. Umm Sulaym said: I felt shy when I heard that. Also the hadith of Khawla bint Hakim (may Allah be pleased with her) which Al-Shawkani rahimahullah mentioned right before this one in Nayl Al-Awtar has a very similar meaning and is Sahih as he mentioned and commented that its meaning is agreed upon. And to the brothers, if you knew the messenger of Allaah sallallhu alayhee wsalam, his wives and companions were reading this, would you dare utter such words like: In response, I just wanted to share my experience. This question you have already explained but due to continuous small changing in it i am getting more confused If i dont get a wet dream i am sure of it not even a thought of it but still i get a white discharge in washroom.. then it is all okay right? Why is masturbation not allowed? Home Hanafi Fiqh Qibla.com Wet Dreams and Ghusl, Answered by Shaykh Sohail Hanif, SunniPath Academy Teacher, i have a question relating to wet dream. How can she know if it is the same wetness before sleeping or if she needs ghusl. For those with a passionate nature, like myself, this is a difficult message to absorb. I also have a question: in one of the above Hadith, it said : He was asked about a man who thinks that he had an erotic dream but does not see any wetness. I know for sure that I cant be the only one experiencing this. Signing a contract which contains a payment clause on interest. 4. I didnt do a ghusl after this bacause I was not sure. . It is important to note here though that sometimes a female may wake up in the middle of the dream, before having an orgasm. How does knowing what it feels like to have a orgasm affect your salah? Here is that hadith for those who are interested: Narrated by Khawlah Bint Hakeem, who asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) if a woman should make ghusl when she has a sexual dream, he (peace be upon him) said: No ghusl on her unless she has a discharge, similarly there is not ghusl on the man unless he ejaculates. (Related by Ahmad, Al-Nasai, Ibn Majah, and Ibn Abi Shaybah). if a women get wet dream in day time and his vagina get wet but she doesnot find any drops of liquid in her inner or pant. These include shellfish, excessive spice, etc. this is going to be extremely weird question but i need answer. satisfied. Is she considered so low and evil? What Should I Do after Seeing a Wet Dream? - SeekersGuidance Out of these, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. Similarly, once a sister saw her young daughter (around 7) using the shower massager on her private areas while taking a shower. However, you will have to filter that to appropriate information and in mild terms. 4. These cookies track visitors across websites and collect information to provide customized ads. Im very often having wet dreams. I would have appreciate knowing ways to reduce the frequency to avoid having to take 3 showers in one night, if for no other reason Answer: Vaginal discharge does not necessitate ghusl, no problems here. In the vagina, this swelling creates a sweating reaction, producing a fluid that makes the vaginal lipsget wet. knowing 100% women are reading what you just wrote. I keep ignoring it all and try to live my life normally. Get up for tahajud and pray to Allah that he removes these thoughts until you get married and for Allah to provide you with a good spouse. Now when i sleep in those clothes and wake up i still find them wet although i now deep its wetnes frm sprinkling as i dont recall seeing wet dream. is that considered masturbation even if i never rubbed or inserted anything into my vagina. Also after my period I usually get extra discharge white clear liquid and I am not sure if its because my hormones are quite high during this time as it is usually when I have these dreams. If you had a dream in which what was seen was mainly intercourse and no wetness is found upon waking up you are not in a state of major ritual impurity (janaba) and you dont need to perform a ritual bath.